An Experiment in Surrender
the day you stop denying your destiny
We were all taught to follow our dreams. To chase what we want in life. To build a future around our desires.
But what if that pursuit is the very thing keeping us from the path that was always meant for us?
What if there’s a road the Universe carved for you long before you were born and chasing what you think you want is what blinds you to it?
This is the premise behind a book that pierced through me: The Surrender Experiment, by Michael Singer.
There is a voice inside all of us that never seems to shut up.
It tells us what we like.
What we don’t like.
What we need to feel safe.
What we should avoid.
What we should chase.
And most of us call that voice... me.
Michael Singer didn’t.
He spent his life watching that voice, questioning its grip until he saw it for what it truly was.
One day, while sitting with a friend in silence, the moment grew uncomfortable. The silence triggered a wave of internal pressure.
The urge to speak, to break the stillness.
But then something strange happened.
Michael saw his mind searching for something to say… and he realized it wasn’t him doing the searching. He was the one watching it.
In that moment, something ancient returned: His thoughts weren’t him. His emotions weren’t him. They were passing clouds — and he was the open sky.
“I am not the voice,” he realized. “I am the one who hears it.”
That realization rearranged everything.
He saw the trap: every time he obeyed what he liked or feared, he was handing over his life to the very thing that had caused his suffering.
So he made a sacred vow.
He would no longer live by preference. No longer ask, “What do I want?”
Instead, he would say yes to life.
That vow became what he called: The Surrender Experiment.
He purchased a piece of land in Gainesville — a sanctuary of silence for meditation and peace.
But life had other plans.
People began arriving. Some even built homes on his land without asking.
Anyone else might have forced them out. After all, hadn’t he earned his solitude?
But Michael remembered his vow.
He said yes, he allowed it.
That land became the Temple of the Universe — a spiritual center birthed not from ambition, but from surrender.
Then came another moment. A friend asked him to help with a small medical software project.
The voice within protested: “I’m no businessman.” “I don’t care about money.” “I just want peace.”
But he knew the rules.
He said yes.
That became Medical Manager — a company that eventually merged into what we now know as WebMD.
He didn’t chase success. He didn’t strive. He simply stopped saying no.
And life — ancient, vast, and wise — carried him.
After finishing the book, I didn’t just reflect on the message. I stepped into it.
I began my own Surrender Experiment.
Life gave me a choice: bend my values for someone else’s schedule, or trust the path unfolding before me.
I chose surrender.
I walked away from the job — not because I had a safety net, but because I believed the Universe had placed something else in front of me.
And when I took that step — the real path emerged.
I created my clothing brand — not for business, but as an expression of my soul, my writings, my myth.
I embraced the title I once ran from: Writer. Teacher. Filmmaker.
And finally — Flamebearer.
The name I didn’t choose… but remembered.
I started my YouTube channel — not because I was ready, but because the next step had arrived.
The numbers are small. The outcome uncertain. But I’m no longer waiting.
I said yes to the call. To the next moment. To what life is already trying to show me.
Where it leads is not mine to know. Only mine to walk.
So now I ask you:
Are you willing to surrender to the path life already wrote for you?
Do you believe you’re walking it now?
Or does the old voice still echo —the one that says this is all just “hippy bullshit,” and you should play it safe, get a job, and quit dreaming?
Wherever you are, I’d love to know what you think.
And if you feel the pull — try it.
Begin your own Surrender Experiment. Say yes to what arrives. Watch what shifts.
Because I’ve lived it — and I can tell you this:
When you surrender to what life intended for you, you’ll be led somewhere you never imagined —not because you dreamed it, but because it was always waiting.
We’ve been told: “You can be anything you want.”
But I’ve come to believe the deeper truth:
You can only become what you were meant to become.
There is a path only you can walk.
A rhythm only your soul knows.
And when you chase a life that isn’t yours, life will interrupt you.
It will feel like failure but it’s not.
It’s what’s not meant for you falling away —so what is meant for you can rise.
You can fight the river. You can cling to desire, identity, ego.
Or you can let go.
You can allow.
And finally become what you already are.
But how do you find this path the Universe has created for you?
It can be a feeling, a thought in stillness, a pull towards something perhaps you might actually have never even considered before but now an opportunity presents itself for you.
Once you make it clear that you are open to receiving and surrendering, you will begin to just know what it is you are meant to do.
It might be obvious, it might not be.
That is truly the beauty of it.
Walk the path that is before you, and it will lead down a life you could have never imagined was possible.
Your true path has been waiting.